When you lend someone money or give them a gift, it usually comes with an expectation that they will repay you. But what do you do if they don’t? Do you let it go? Try to be understanding. Or is there something else you can do to get the funds back and get your friend or family member to pay attention? You may not think of shaming as a valid option when dealing with someone who has borrowed money from you or cost you in some other way. But trust us when we tell you that it’s one of the most effective tools at your disposal. And it may just be the key to getting what’s yours and making sure that these people never take advantage of you again. Here’s how to shame someone who owes you money:
How To Shame Someone Who Owes You Money?
Pay the bill first.
If you are the one who has been wronged, the first thing that you should do is pay the bill. This will make it clear that this person is not a scrooge, but just a good friend who wants to see things work out for both parties. This will also prevent any further damage between you and this person in the future. After all, people are only human, so they can get angry if they feel like they’re being taken advantage of. The best way to prevent this from happening is by paying for everything first before your debt is repaid. This will show that you have nothing to hide and that everything is on the table for discussion or dispute resolution if needed in the future. In addition, people can be mean and vindictive when their pride gets hurt, which means that if there’s no fight with some sort of payment in place upfront then it may actually be easier for them to forgive and forget about what happened between you two in future.
Let them know how much they owe you and how much money they owe others too!
If your friend owes money then let him know how much he owes to other people around him as well as his friends or family members too! This will make it clear how much money you are owed and how much money your friend owes others, which will make them feel bad and will also make them think twice before they do something again. This is because they’ll know that if they do it again then they’ll be in trouble too, so this will help them to keep their head up high and not get discouraged.
Offer to help them repay the debt instead of getting mad at them.
If you don’t want to pay the bill for your friend then offer to help him pay it off instead! This is a good way for people to feel appreciated and loved, especially when your friend does not have much money. It will also show that you are a good friend who is willing to lend a helping hand when needed. This is an effective way of showing that you care about your friend even though he or she did something wrong to hurt you in the first place. After all, if you had done the same thing as your friend then you would understand why he or she has such a hard time paying up!
Keep reminding him/her about what happened between you two in the future whenever it’s convenient for both of you!
The best way for both parties involved in any dispute or disagreement is to talk things through with each other as soon as possible before things get worse between the two of you! As mentioned earlier, people can be mean and vindictive when their pride gets hurt, which means that if there’s no fight with some sort of payment in place upfront then it may actually be easier for them to forgive and forget about what happened between you two in future. If you keep reminding your friend about what happened between you two then this will help him or her to stay away from the same mistakes!
Ask for forgiveness first, before asking for permission!
If you want to ask your friend to pay up his or her debt or request a favor from your friend, make sure that you do so first before getting permission from your friend! Asking permission is a sign of weakness and it is like showing that you are not confident enough to do things yourself as opposed to showing that you are confident enough in yourself and in the person who owes the money to do things on your own. It will also show that you are very insecure and unsure of yourself rather than showing confidence in yourself and your abilities as an individual. This will make others think twice before they believe what you’re saying!
Publish the Evidence
- If you’re going to public shame, it’s best to do it in a public place. This will make the person know that they have a debt to pay. It will also demonstrate the seriousness of the situation.
- You can use many different forms of media to publish your evidence. You can publish it through social media (such as Twitter or Facebook) or through a blog post. You can even send out an email with links to your blog post and social media posts.
- If you’re going to public shame, you need evidence that proves that the person owes you money and is in default of their debt obligations because they breached their contract with you. For example, if someone owes you a meal or for a car that was lent to them, then you need photos or video footage of them driving around town in your car or eating at your favorite restaurant with receipts from both parties showing the date and amount owed on each receipt.
- If it’s an immediate family member that owes money, like an immediate family member who has borrowed money from another family member who can’t pay back the loan due to being incapacitated (meaning unable), then hold your shaming ceremony at home so they don’t feel embarrassed by being publicly shamed by their own family members while they are incapacitated (unable).
- If you’re going to public shame, be respectful, but don’t be afraid to make the person feel ashamed for breaking their contract with you. Make them feel ashamed for breaking their word and causing you financial harm. Make them feel shame for the things they have done which have caused you financial harm.
Take Legal Action
- If the person has already been sued, you can sue them in a court of law. The court will order them to pay you back, and you can get a judgment against them.
- If the person owes money that was owed to another person who is not suing them (the other party is “incapacitated”), then you can sue in a court of law under your own name for debt collection or fraudulently transferring ownership of an asset without telling the other party about it in good faith (known as “fraudulent conveyance”). This is known as “fraudulent transfer.” It involves proving that they transferred ownership of an asset without telling the other party about it in good faith.
- If the person owes money that was owed to you but has not been paid, or if they have already been sued by another party and settled, you can sue in a court of law for breach of contract.
- If the person owes money that was owed to you but has not been paid, and if the debt is in a contract (such as a lease), then you can sue in a court of law for breach of contract.
- If the person owes money that was owed to you but has not been paid, and if the debt is older than 3 years, then you can sue in a court of law for debt collection (but not fraudulently transferring ownership).
You can use shaming to get money or other items back from people who owe you. The key is to make them feel ashamed and to remind them that they are obligated to pay you back. A private shaming ceremony and a written reminder are two effective ways of doing this.